You're great Toni, I really appreciate the advice, thanks a lot!!
I currently have short hair now, I used to have long hair like this,

so I suppose the consistent slicking back must have pulled it a bit, but the way it receded a bit more now is I'm sure due to a bad diet, lack of/inconsistent sleep schedules, and stress, and yes hereditary as well

I'm going to change all of that very soon and I also started putting this coconut oil in my hair every other day and shampooing it after a couple of hours to remove the oil, my mom says that will help, is it a "myth"?
And I do wear a hat because my hair is in an awkward middle stage, should I stop doing that? I also hope my face doesn't qualify as "long" then in what you were saying.
Thanks again Toni, you are REALLY very helpful, I appreciate it